Pain from significance or significance from pain: #6B

What a peculiar question.

Do we feel pain because of the significance of love or is love significant because we feel pain.

Well, maybe if we define the pain associated with love, we'll arrive to some conclusions. Lovers are often very worried about each other. That hurts. Also, as Andreas Capellanus argues in The Art of Courtly Love, love is suffering because lovers fear that their love will not be returned. This fear causes woe to the mind and to the soul. This is a kind of paranoia that makes lovers do crazy things for each other.

So, lovers do crazy things for each other because they are paranoid of losing the other's love. And they are paranoid of losing the other's love because... love is significant.

That seems to make sense. Let me cover my bases here.

We feel pain from the worrying and the paranoia. But we feel the worrying and paranoia because we don't want to lose love; we feel that it is worth maintaining. It is worth maintaining it because it is significant.

But, what makes it significant? I have just gone through the steps to prove that we feel pain due to the significance of love, but maybe the inverse is simultaneously true.

Love is significant because... it is rare? I don't honestly believe that. I feel like love is a relationship achieved with commitment and hard work. So, it's a goal that can be achieved. Also, it seems like almost everybody accomplishes that kind of a relationship. So, I don't think that's why it's significant.

Maybe love provides something that nothing else can. Maybe it's the warm, fuzzy feelings. Maybe it's the fact that it provides something constant to hold onto.

Then again, other things can fulfill those desires: Drugs and a steady job.

So, is love significant because it is painful? A lot of the other important moments in life seem significant because they are painful. High school is painful. Losing a limb in a war is painful. Both of those things seem to significantly affect your life, whether in the immediate future or the long run. So, maybe love is significant because it is painful.

I think both statements are true, as illogical as it sounds. Love is significant because it's painful and it's painful because it's significant. What a dilemma...