Wednesday, March 24, 2010
Question 6B
Even though loving a person in the end can hurt, it is not the paine that a person feels that measures if what that person actually felt was love or how significant that love was. The amount of emotional pain that people feel is a result of love and not the other way around. People feel emotional pain after a realationship ends because they put themselfs out there on the line for the sake of love and for the person that they really cared for. They create this fantasy of what love is or could be even if they are a gernerally realistic person. Then when the loving realationship ends, unlike in all of those romantic comedy's they have seen so many times before, they feel the emotional pain. It is not the act of loving a person that ends up hurting them but, the emotions and time that you put into the realationship that ended up just being a waste of time and effort. Overall love can cause much pain but, its the love and feelings that cause this not the paine measuring the amount of love.
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It seems like you avoid the question--it's not a matter of pain arising from love or vice versa, but of whether you feel pain because a love is significant or the presence of pain makes a love significant. I think you come close to arguing the former (that pain is felt because love is significant), because you say pain comes from the waste of time and effort brought about by the end of the relationship. But even if this is what you meant, aren't you ignoring any pain that is present in the beginning or middle (or prior to the start) of the relationship? I doubt any relationship is free of all pain until it ends (otherwise, why end it?).
ReplyDeleteYou write: "It is not the act of loving a person that ends up hurting them..." Really? Really? Why are you so sure of this? Is the pain of later responsible for the pleasure now?
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