Love is a really confusing subject because it is such a complicated emotion. This is perhaps because love is not a single emotion but a combination of many different emotions. Love is what causes the greatest happiness, joy, and, best of all, the feeling that someone wants you more than anyone else in the world. However, it also causes the worst emotions. The person who you love is the person who can hurt you the most, make you the most sad or angry, and cause you the most pain. Because love is such a strong emotion, the person who you love is the person who holds the most power over you. So to say that your experience with a certain person is more significant because of the pain doesn't quite make sense to me. It seems that the only reason your lover is able to cause you so much pain is because they are so significant to you that they have complete control over your emotions. Therefore, I believe that the cause of the pain of love (which is different than other kinds of pain because emotions that are caused by love are stronger than other emotions) must be the experience not the other way around.
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Pain can make love significant because people want to fulfill their love as a release from that pain. If you fear losing a person, you alleviate that fear, or pain, by having that person be with you and requite your feelings of love. Being with a person that loves you... that sounds a lot like going on a date or even marriage. Aren't both of those considered ways of fulfilling love and of alleviating the pain of uncertainty about the object of your affection? If that pain is very strong, and fulfilling your love is the only way to partially release yourself from the pain, wouldn't you place a high value on love?
ReplyDeleteI like how you explained that love can be the best experience because of the joy and happiness, but it can also be the worst experience because the person you love has the ability to deeply hurt you. I feel that this really backs up your argument about how pain is caused by a significant love.
ReplyDeleteYou write: "Because love is such a strong emotion, the person who you love is the person who holds the most power over you. So to say that your experience with a certain person is more significant because of the pain doesn't quite make sense to me." Isn't the power they hold over you due to the significance of the pain you'll feel if you lose them (as a result of not letting them have power over you)?
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