b. Just because experience of loving someone can hurt us emotionally, is the emotional pain itself just a matter of coincidence or is it a special sign that the experience is more vital in some way? Perhaps another way of looking at the question: is the experience significant because we feel pain or do we feel pain because the experience is significant?
I believe that we feel pain because the experience is significant, not that the experience is significant because we feel pain. In every relationship, youre going to feel some kind of pain. Whether it's when it ends or something that happens during the relationship, youre going to feel pain at some point. I could see how people would think this though because in some relationships, you feel more pain then others. This is probably an indication that the relationship was special or something but I think that the other way is more indicative of a special experience.
The better experience you have in a relationship, the more painful it will be. If you love someone, youre emotions involving that person become a lot greater. When something happens that can cause pain and its more painful then normal, then thats when you know that the relationship that youre in is significant.
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I really like your idea "the better experience you have in a relationship, the more painful it will be". It's insightful in concept, but that's assuming that the relationship was a COMPLETELY satisfying experience until the end. I just feel that in some cases, for some people perhaps, being lied to multiple times in a relationship can make one feel hurt more because they had been deceived so many times, and in this situation, their experience was far from good.
ReplyDeletebut, like anything, it all depends on the situation, which is why your statement can be so applicable.
I agree with your side of this question and I liked that you pointed out how the greater the emotions are for a person, the more painful it is when something goes wrong.
ReplyDeleteLike Kap mentioned, I like that you pointed out the fact that good times in a relationship can bring some painful feelings when something goes wrong. When happiness is interupted, its so painful because you're in a position where all you think about is how badly you want to go back to that point of bliss, which shows how hurt you really are.
ReplyDeleteIf you believe someone in love feels pain because the experience is already significant, then you have to explain what makes love significant beyond the pain involved. In other words, how do you know it is significant w/o the pain?
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